solar1,
glad i could help :o)
as for the dieelectric grease? you can put that on it if you like but it's not necessary.
on those connector plugs i'm not aware of any 'pigtail' type assy's anyone makes for those, i've always had to get the components separately. And they do make pin insertion/removal tools you can buy, they can be found just about anywhere that sells the components. This particular plug and terminal uses a small thin blade removal tool that slides down beside the terminal and deflects the retaining locking tab back so the terminal can be removed.