I strongly suggest that you acquire a handset especially if you have multiple units. You would be able to see every switch and it's status. There are too many possibilities. I have two different styles of handsets and a complete set of schematics and it can still be a challenge but it makes it a lot easier. I can understand how this problem would be frustrating.
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